Hey everyone! It’s been a while! I have been doing a lot of thinking, which I don’t know if that’s my problem, but that’s beside the point. In the midst of a pandemic, I am still trying to make good grades to raise my gpa and hopefully get into a grad school program. All while my nerves and anxiety are taking over. I think a lot of times; we do things to create a certain image of ourselves. We want to please our parents, peers, family, and maybe your work colleagues. I am tired…I love who I am and the person I’ve grown to be regardless of my flaws, but whenever I am consistently trying to please others, I lose myself. We can only do so much.
Why do we try to please others?
Since we were younger, it has been ingrained in us to please our parents and elders. That is perfectly fine, but once we get older, many of the personal decisions we make are on us. Imagine being trained to be a people-pleaser for 18+ years. Obviously, it is a habit, and it definitely feels weird to break it. We want to be loved, appreciated, and respected by those close to us. We want to find our in-group of friends. Our families create an external image of what they believe we should look like, act like, etc. Don’t get me wrong please be respectful. There are times when we have to learn to make decisions for ourselves, which’s the gist of my message.
Ways to Become a You-Pleaser:
- Say NO
I definitely don’t say no enough. I feel like if I say no, I’ll get bad karma or juju.
- Think for yourself
Don’t always seek approval from the world, social media, or others. DO YOU BOO!
This will definitely remind you to think for yourself and about yourself.
- Acknowledge that perfection is unrealistic
- Remind yourself of why you do what you do
Take charge and stop trying to please others all the time! Not everyone is gonna like what you do, and you can’t always justify your actions to people’s liking.
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